6 Bachelorette party-planning tips

bachelorette party-planning tips

We talked about it for years. We made pinterest boards about it and mentioned it casually in conversation. We wondered if it would over come. And then it did.

My best friend is engaged! Like lots of women, I’ve known that I would be maid of honor for like the past 6 years. And she will of course be mine if and whenever marriage happens for me (ha!). It’s always an honor when I get asked to be in a friend’s wedding. You know they really like you when this happens.

bachelorette party-planning tips

But seriously … like it means you’re on the ride or die list. And that’s pretty cool.

Being the maid of honor, however, comes with a little more responsibility than a normal bridesmaid. You have to plan and organize stuff. You have to herd cattle … I mean women. You have to handle budgets and make sure everyone is happy. And most importantly, you have to make sure the bride has the best night or weekend ever.

It can be overwhelming for sure. I love to plan. I could spend hours pouring over Airbnb or hotels.com. However I know that not everyone enjoys planning as much as I do. So I thought I would create a list of tips to help you to plan a nice and smooth bachelorette party.

1. Nail down a date early

It’s best to get a solid idea of who the bride would like to attend and then give them 3-4 potential dates. When organizing a group, too many options can often be overwhelming. And it can a a headache for you.

I set up a group chat with the bride plus the girls in the winter. We decided on a weekend and a place. Two of the most important things were nailed down.

2. Get the brides input … and then let her be

I would recommend to ask the bride for a list. What things she wants to do and what things she doesn’t. What is most important to her and what she could take or leave. This will give you the best idea of what to focus on when planning.

Then leave the bride out of it all. She’s supposed to be surprised. Also she has a million things to do for the wedding. She certainly does not need one more thing to plan. If she chose you as maid of honor, she trusts your judgement calls.

3. Get group input … but not too much

Who here is familiar with Survey Monkey? It’s this website where you can create surveys for free! Because I’m me, I thought it would be fun to make one about the bachelorette party!

While only a handful of the 7 girls filled it out, it still gave me an idea of what they were thinking. I could use this plus the brides input to plan the party. However at the same time, I wasn’t asking the girls what I should do for every single detail. With 7 girls, everyone will have their input. At the end of the day, that would just be overwhelming.

What I did instead was book the Airbnb that I could cancel free of charge. I booked it and sent the girls the link. No one had any issues with it. I then went ahead and mapped out the weekend, and sent them the rough itinerary. I totaled up the budget and let everyone know a number. I tried to strike the balance between keeping everyone informed and not being overwhelming.

bachelorette party-planning tips

4. Over-budget

I cannot stress this one enough. A bachelorette party is expensive. Furthermore, the bride is supposed to pay for nothing. The maid of honor can end up eating some of the costs if things are not budgeted properly. So I cannot say it enough … over-budget.

These are the things the budget covers for a weekend away:

  • The accommodations
  • Any food or alcohol at the accommodations
  • Whatever tour or group activity you all do
  • Whatever meals the bride eats and whatever drinks she orders at the bars
  • Decorations, the sash, etc.

I made the silly mistake of under-budgeting. Some of the girls in the group were super nice and asked me if we had gone over. So I felt comfortable looking again at our receipts. It ended up being an extra $22.50/girl. It would have just been so much easier if I had added in an extra $20 a girl.

I would advise to total all the costs that need to be split. Then for safe measure, add $25 to that. Any leftover costs can be used to buy everyone a round of drinks or something.

5. Don’t talk about money in front of the bride

When I went back over the budget, I just sent a text out to everyone with what they owed me. This was perfect because the bride didn’t even know a thing. Her party is supposed to be fun and relaxing. You don’t need to involve her in the money!

The other thing I knew was that she would have been like “oh I can pay for xxxx.” No! That’s not how bachelorette parties work.

6. Document all the things

Make her do silly things like touch a guys abs … and then record it.

What has your bachelorette party experience been like? How would you plan a bachelorette party? Do you have any good tips?

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  1. I think your tips or should i say guidelines is in line with the kind of bachelorette party i would love to have. You are sure good @planning.

  2. I did not have a bachelorette party and did not want one. I also have never been to a bachelorette party, only a bridal shower. For me, bachelorette parties are so not my thing.

  3. I never hosted (or had) a bachelorette party – too hard with people’s work schedules and being all over the country/already having to fly to attend the wedding. Having hosted several bridal/baby showers, though, you’re absolutely right about MOH having to over-budget – you WILL have to eat part of the costs every time, and that’s something that goes down easier if you realize it upfront.

  4. I like the idea of having a bachelorette party although I didn’t do it during my time. But perhaps having it planned for today’s generation, would be so much fun. These tips would be helpful for such activity.

  5. My bachelorette party consisted of a night out with great friends! Of course, the husband had to crash it but was a welcomed guest haha We had a blast. Prep is always good when planning a party as important as this. Great advice!

  6. This is such a beautiful setting for a party! I eloped so I didn’t have one myself, but I have been to quite a few and have had a blast! Good planning is definitely key.

  7. I never had a bachelorette party which I regret and your tips looks really helpful for others who wants or planning one 🙂

  8. I have been part of a few bachelorette parties but never had to plan one and never will have one myself. There is so much drama going on and next time I am invited to one I will send them a link to your post. Seems like a good guide to avoid any possible mishaps that happened on each single party that I went to. The bride didn’t like it. Last minute date changes AND… not enough rooms/beds were booked at the hotel. Yep, seen it all.

  9. These are great tips for bachelorette parties. I personally didn’t have it (too broke to have one) but I think it’s always important to share such beautiful moments with all of your loved ones.

  10. I had a friend of mine that was trying to put together a baby shower. These are a lot of the same goals that you need for that kind of a party as well. Ask what is wanted and then take things from there. And don’t put the honus on the person to make the decisions.

  11. I have never been to a bachelorette party, but I’ve heard how fun they are. I know it’s definitely up to the bridal party to plan everything and to make sure she has an amazing time as a fiancee!

  12. I’m married, but I’ve never had a bachelorette party. It looks like a really good time for girls to celebrate and have an amazing time. Thanks for sharing your tips.

    xo Sheree
    Posh Classy Mom

  13. I have never planned a bachelorette party before, but I did go to a
    Bachelor party a few years ago in Vegas. It’s a blast, but it can also be quite expensive. I would definitely recommend doing a budget and try to stick to it.

    1. Hahaha well I’m sure you haven’t been to a bachelorette party. Vegas is quite common but like you said, it can also be very expensive.

  14. Planning a bachelorette party is so hard. I have done two so far. One was a surprise. It was so hard to get the bride to agree to come. Luckily she did and we had a great time.

  15. These are all such great tips. Planning these type of events can be stressful, but these tips can help reduce the stress for sure 🙂 I haven’t planned one myself, but when the day comes I’ll have this post bookmarked.

    1. Yeah it can be super stressful and then you want to please everyone. It can be tough but hopefully this will help.

  16. I’ve never heard of a bachelorette party but it looks like your great at organizing them. I wish I had one when I got married 😞

    1. Oh wow! Yeah they are a big deal in the United States but not as much of a thing in some other countries.

  17. One of my best friend’s is getting married next month and her bachelorette plans are in full motion. The bride has no idea what’s going on and its been super stressful organizing everyone! I will definitely keep your tips in mind. All she knows is that she has to show up somewhere at a certain time lol.

    1. Oh wow that’s awesome. Yeah my biggest tip is to just overbudget, overbudget, overbudget. It just sucks to be the one to eat the costs.

    1. I have heard that and I never understood why. To me, I just think of a farm animal. Do you know why you all call them that?

  18. your party looks like fun to be young !! I miss partying with girls !! All pretty women in one place !!

  19. When I organize such kind of party I don’t usually ask the bride bcoz often it’s a surprise… I’m glad reading this that you include asking her, – the bride to be; her thoughts… now I understand it better 🙂

    God bless!

    JM Kayne | #InMyHeart♥

    1. Yeah I mean I want to surprise her on some levels. However at the same time, I want her to be happy. So I like to get an idea of what’s most important to her and then I go from there.

  20. Amazing tips! I’ve been to a bachelorette parties and it was so fun! I love the atmosphere of these parties so much! And it is nice advise to document all the thing! so you have great memory through the years

  21. I have never had to plan a bachelorette party, but I have shared your article with my daughters who will be in the near future. Such great tips!

  22. I give you credit for coordinating an event with that many bridesmaids in the party. looks like it was amazing and i’m in love with the venue. So beautiful.

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